"You Don't Have to Be Pretty. You don't owe prettiness to anyone. Not to your boyfriend/spouse/partner, not to your co-workers, especially not to random men on the street. You don't owe it to your mother, you don't owe it to your children, you don't owe it to civilization in general. Prettiness is not a rent you pay for occupying a space marked 'female.'
Yesterday I thought, "this is enough. You need to put on real pants and makeup."
And then I thought, No. No you don't because "pretty is not a rent you pay for occupying a space marked 'female.'"
And then the next question that came to my mind was, what is the rent we pay to occupy that space? And I knew immediately that I needed your help answering.
What is the rent we pay to occupy the space marked 'female?'